90 Day Fiancé: Why Do Elizabeth and Andrei Keep Pushing People Away?

There are couples on reality TV who spark drama for the cameras, and then there’s Elizabeth and Andre, who seem to live and breathe conflict...

There are couples on reality TV who spark drama for the cameras, and then there’s Elizabeth and Andre, who seem to live and breathe conflict so thoroughly that it spills out of the screen and into every relationship around them, leaving viewers shaking their heads and wondering how two people can be so in sync with each other, yet so completely out of step with just about everyone else in their lives.

Watching part two of the Happily Ever After Tell All, it became painfully clear that Elizabeth and Andre don’t need hours—or even minutes—to contradict themselves or spiral into fresh chaos; they can do it in under sixty seconds, setting a new personal record as they push away friends, family, and anyone who dares to challenge them.

For years, their storyline has revolved around uniting against some external enemy, and while this may have once drawn them closer, it’s now left them isolated, with almost everyone else pushed out; friends and family once central to their lives have drifted away or been cut off, and the cycle of conflict just keeps spinning. The irony is hard to miss: in their quest to prove themselves right or defend their relationship, they’ve managed to drive away every person who once supported them, and the sense of connection they do have, as a couple, seems increasingly built on weathering storms together rather than finding peace.

Andre, especially, seems to thrive on drama, almost as if conflict makes him feel powerful or alive; whether he’s reading out private text messages on camera to prove a point or escalating an argument until someone storms off, he’s always at the center of the storm.

Research suggests that people who feed off chaos often do so for a sense of relevance or control, and in Andre’s case, every blow-up becomes another opportunity to rally Elizabeth to his side—turning her fear and frustration into renewed loyalty, even as everyone else gets pushed away.

What makes it even more troubling, though, is how both Andre and Elizabeth fall into the same patterns, unable or unwilling to admit when they’re wrong. Rather than reflect, apologize, or try to repair the damage, they go through the motions of an argument—never really listening, just circling around the same grievances, sometimes even forgetting the original issue in the heat of the moment. It’s become so habitual that being at odds with someone seems to be their default setting, the drama almost addictive, a way to feel alive even as it exhausts everyone else.

Elizabeth, for her part, can’t seem to own up to her mistakes, whether it’s publicly repeating private accusations about a friend’s marriage or stirring up fresh drama by calling someone “fake” for having plastic surgery, only to later admit she wants the same thing herself. Even when confronted with video evidence or direct questions, she deflects, justifies, or tries to shift the blame—never quite able to say, “I was wrong,” even when it’s clear to everyone else in the room.

The saddest part is how these patterns have left them increasingly alone. Elizabeth only talks to her dad and her sister Becky now, from the big, close family we once saw on our TV screens. When friends like Lauren, who once felt like sisters, are pushed away after trust is broken, it’s hard not to wonder what’s really driving all this chaos and denial. Maybe, as the years have gone by, Elizabeth has become so wrapped up in defending Andre and their relationship that she’s afraid to admit any weakness or mistake for fear it will crack the foundation they’ve built—no matter how shaky it’s become. It's a wild moment for the couple, but we hope things will get better by the end of the tell-all.

All the tough talk and accusations, the pain underneath is real. When the kids are grown and there’s no one left to blame, they’ll have to face each other and decide if the drama is enough to sustain them, or if it’s finally time to break the cycle. Because when your whole world becomes a battlefield, eventually you’re left fighting ghosts and memories, not the people who used to love you.

It’s not too late for Andre and Elizabeth to have a redemption arc, to choose accountability and connection over conflict and chaos—but that change will only come when they’re willing to look each other in the eye and admit, with honesty and humility, that being wrong is human, and that owning up is the first step toward healing what’s been lost. Until then, we’ll be watching, hoping for growth, and maybe—just maybe—rooting for something real to break through the noise.